“Not working” can refer to two main scenarios: either being unemployed (or taking a break from employment), or a job situation that is no longer suitable (i.e., a job that is “not working” for you). 1. Not Working: Being Unemployed or Taking a Break
When people ask why you are not working, it can feel invasive. Here are some ways to approach this, according to perspectives from Reddit and Quora:
Be Concise and Calm: Own your situation. Smile and be direct to convey confidence, rather than needing to justify yourself.
Use Vague, True Statements: You can say you are on a “medical reprieve,” “taking time off,” or “retired” (if applicable).
Protect Privacy: It is fine to tell people you prefer not to share details of your life.
Redirect the Conversation: Answer briefly, then shift the focus back to the other person by asking about their work or life.
Reasons for Not Working: People may not be working due to a lack of necessity (financial independence), searching for a better-suited job, or health reasons.
“I have some autoimmune stuff going on, but once my doctor clears me I’d like to transition back to my position as a xyz. What field are you in?” Reddit · r/Adulting · 3 months ago
“I’m a private person & am not comfortable sharing the details of my life with people I don’t know.” Reddit · r/Adulting · 3 months ago 2. A Job That is “Not Working” (Signs of a Poor Fit)
A job that is not working for you often feels draining or restrictive. Key signs include:
Lack of Impact: You cannot see the result of your work, often felt in large companies.
No Growth: Lack of opportunities to learn or build new skills.
Inadequate Resources: Lacking proper tools, training, or support to do the job.
No Autonomy: Little control over your own work or decision-making.
Poor Boundaries: Work consumes your entire life, and you cannot set boundaries around hours. Underpayment: Being paid below industry standards.
Toxic Culture: Feeling disrespected or that your input does not matter. 3. Feeling Tired of Working
Many people experience burnout or exhaustion from work, which may include feeling: Tired of society and work demands. Mental health struggles affecting work performance. A need for a career change or an extended break.
It is important to remember that your career is not your entire life, and it’s okay to reassess your career goals if your current job is not meeting your needs, says Career Contessa.